Hey girl, hey!
When you think of the word “sexy”, what exactly comes to mind? Most people automatically think about a physical attraction, but girlfriend it’s waaay more than that! True sexiness comes from within and after three decades of being alive, I finally learned what being sexy is all about… so today I’d like to share with you how I maintain my sexy and how you can do the same. Let’s chat!
1. Stay Active
If you follow me on snapchat (follow me @ mselle21) you know that I’m always talking about staying active. However, I cannot lie and say that I’m a gym rat... because that, my friend, would be far from the truth. In all actuality, I hate going to the gym, so I try to find activities to do that are both fun annnd active. Whether it’s going on a long walk with my dogs, riding a bike around the city on nice days, running on the beach during vacation, or finding groupons for activities to do around my area.
My wolfpack (that’s what we call ourselves, you’ll see them on snap) and I get together sometimes to do some type of group exercises, because we all know how important it is to keep your body active. It’s not just to stay looking good (although that’s a very nice side effect), the more important part of staying active is that it decreases stress (we all have stressful jobs), uplifts your mood, and helps keep away many diseases and ailments caused from being overweight and under-active.
By no means am I telling you to immediately start going beast mode with the physical activity, but I am saying that you should at least start somewhere… even if it’s only a couple days a week. Trust me, you’ll find yourself doing a double take in the mirror...loving the way you look and feel after a few weeks of steadfast consistency.
2. Find Balance
“Major Key!” (in my DJ Kaled voice)
All jokes aside, balance is a key component to being victorious in life. My 2017 mantra that I’ve worked so hard to live by is ‘Mind, Body, Soul’. When all three of these things are in balance, it’s a recipe for happiness, harmony, and success.
When I say find balance… it’s literally just that. Had a burger for lunch? Okay…. maybe eat a salad for dinner (and skip dessert) to balance it out.
Like to splurge on shopping? Okay… determine your next savings goal and then set aside a little bit of money to reward yourself with something nice and within reason.
Have high anxiety (like me)? Try meditating in a quiet space a couple times a week to release those anxious thoughts and calm your mind.
Just don’t make it complicated.
Like they say… even too much of a good thing can be harmful. I’ll share a quick story with you:
When I was about 13 years old, I would always see those commercials about V8 juice (“Shoulda had a V8!” Remember those?!).
Anyway, I was convinced that by replacing water with V8 juice that I would be giving my body all the fruit and veggie nutrients it needed and I would be healthier solely by changing this one thing.
Needless to say... after about 2 weeks of drinking non-stop V8 juice, I woke up one morning to find that I had literally turned orange because of all the beta-carotene from the carrots in the juice! And what made matters worse… I had completely broken out into hives all over!
So there I was… orange and hivey all because I indulged in too much of a “good thing”.
Ultimately, I think we all want to someday reach a balanced level in life… it’s just all about finding what works for you.
3. Keep Your Cool.
Let’s keep it all the way real… there are going to be times in life when (ahem..excuse my french)... a MF’er just really wants to try you… and it could happen at anytime! It could be someone at work, someone in your personal or dating life, or maybe a complete stranger that just wants to act a fool with you for some unknown reason (ugh, I hate that).
In my younger years, I can admit that I never really handled situations like this with tact. In fact, it would be more like:
“So you wanna get loud?... Watch me get louder!”
“Oh, you wanna be petty?... Guess who’s the petty queen!”
“You think you got an attitude?... Wait until you see mine!”
But fortunately, I learned that matching ignorance with ignorance is no way to go through life. If anything, people will respect you more for keeping your cool and maintaining your sexy in heated situations… because ladies, we’re just naturally too sexy to let anyone take us out of character.
So the next time someone wants to act a donkey with you… don’t give them the pleasure of seeing you react. Just remember to keep your cool and keep it movin’.
Over time, I’ve really learned to be comfortable in my own skin, with whom I have become, and with whom I’m growing to be. At the end of the day, I do not need approval from anyone in order to be happy and neither do you. If someone dislikes how I look, dislikes my blunt honesty, or dislikes who I am and what I stand for, guess what? ... IDGAF!
Literally learning the lesson of not giving two shits is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. For so long I was always worried about what certain people would say, or how certain people would feel, or what people on social media thought of me… but no more! Because in reality not nan (yes, I said nan) one of those people are paying my bills, cultivating my growth, or providing me emotional or spiritual fulfillment.
So when I’m presented with information about what some hater said, I typically have the same reaction:
*Blank stare*. Unbothered.
Why?... Because IDGAF!
Haters are those people who despise seeing you win! They are clapping with you, but not actually clapping for you. They are smiling in your face, but talkin' mad trash behind your back.
But the way I see it… if someone has enough time to discuss what they dislike about you and what you’re doing, they seriously need a hobby!
Real winners are too busy focusing on actually winning to be worried about the next person.
So the next time you find someone talking down on you when you know you’re putting forth your best effort to be your best self… shake them haters off girlfriend, because you’re just too damn sexy to be worried about things or people who are irrelevant to your well-being.
5. Keep your Finances in Check!
Perhaps one of the sexiest things a woman can be is financially savvy... knowing how to make those coins... then knowing how to make those coins work. for. her. Have you ever seen a woman negotiate? (So sexy!)
The key here is not to look the part, but actually be the part.
"Oh nice, you drive a benz?"...
But does your checking and savings account validate the fact that you're driving that luxury car? Or are the people calling you every other month to repossess it.
"Girl, you slayin' in those red bottoms!"
But does your checking and savings account look like you should be shopping at the $9.99 Shoe Deals shop down the street?
You see, sexiness is the mindset of knowing when to downplay materials things so that you can build on things that actually matter for your financial future... like budgeting, stacking money, and investing.
Because when a girl has her finances in check... that's the ultimate definition of sexy!
So go ahead, get your sexy on and drop a comment below and let me know what you think of this post!
Until Next Time,
Hey girl, hey!
Summer is officially here (well, at least the scorching hot Texas temperatures say so where I live) and let’s face it, sometimes we all just need a break… from life! So what better way to get that break than to plan a summer girlfriend’s getaway (sun’s out, buns out!). The good news is that traveling doesn’t have to be a big production, nor does it have to be expensive. So I have listed some tips below on how to keep those coins in your pocket, while still having a good time with the ladies! Let’s chat:
1. Did Someone Say… Road Trip?
There ain’t nothing like a good ol’ road trip, and sometimes a quick getaway requires just that! You’d be surprised at how many hidden gems you can find that are only a few hours away. So do a google search of some places to travel to within your driving limits (my limit is 5 hours in the car, any more than that… no can do, hunty) get your girls together, and start planning! Don’t forget to have everyone chip in to help the driver with gas.
2. Check out Airbnb or VRBO!
For those of you who may be thinking… what the hell is Airbnb and VRBO? Girlfriend, let me put you up on game! These are sites where you can rent apartments, homes, town homes, and condos almost anywhere in the world. I love renting one of these places, because often times they are significantly cheaper than hotels and allow way more flexibility. You pretty much get to experience living like a local in the area you’re visiting. Not only that… some places have major accommodations like private swimming pools, game rooms and other entertainment ideas (Awesome Sauce!). You may not even have to leave the house much… how’s that for saving money!
3. Grocery Shop & Cook at Home
Yes, I know… eating out can be quick and easy, but where’s the fun in that?! If you have a decent group of ladies going along, try splitting up in “teams” and rotating which team cooks breakfast, lunch or dinner. Or if you have some Chef Girl-ardee’s in the house that love to cook, ask if they’d mind whipping up some grub for the crew. Just find a nearby grocery store and grab all the ingredients you’ll need for the weekend (you'll definitely need snacks too). I guarantee you, this grocery run is so worth the money you’ll be saving on eating out and you'll have so much fund bonding with your girls over delicious home cooked meals!
If you follow me on Snapchat (wink... mselle21) you may remember a while back when me and my girls took a fun weekend getaway trip to Wimberley, TX (yeah, pretty much the middle of nowhere). There were 6 of us and everyone chipped in $121 (Total $726). That money was enough to cover not only our rental home for the weekend, but also all the groceries we shopped for while we were there!
Now let me tell you, my boo, and my girls Porsha and Sandy made some bomb ass Backyard Burgers, Shrimp & Grits, and Breaded Chicken Parmesan, respectively (haha... can you tell I love food?). Those dishes created in that weekend were umm, ummm scrumptious... and way better than any restaurant we could have found, because not only are they great cooks… they made each meal with love! (Awww).
4. Be Flexible
Sometimes you have to be a little flexible with your schedule in order to score a great deal on a trip. More recently, you may have seen on my snapchat (ahem... mselle21) that my girls and I took an epic trip to Atlanta (we turned all the way up... lol) and the round trip flight only costs us $181 per person. Now, grant it, the flights took off at a crazy, un-godly time of the morning (like... 5:30 am), but hey… you can catch up on sleep during the plane ride, right?!
In addition to that, we left on a Thursday and returned home on a Sunday. However, in personal research that I’ve done, flights mostly seem to be at their cheapest on Wednesdays and Saturdays. So if you can leave and/or return on a Wednesday or a Saturday… compare the prices with your preferred timeline and see how that may help your pocketbook!
Personally, I have two vacations planned for this summer. One is right around the corner, where my wife and I will be kicking off the season at an all-inclusive resort in Isla Mujeres, Mexico... swimming with dolphins, eating our asses off, and chill-axin on the beach with a drink in our hands while listening to the waves (ahhhh... relaxing)!
And a couple weeks later, my bestie and I will be living it up in Miraflores, Peru (get your passport, girlfriend!).
Both trips have already been budgeted and paid for… and we already set aside our money to spend. #Prepared #GFB #Thiscouldbeyoutoo
So with that being said, start planning some girl’s trips, budget for them, and let me know how these tips worked out for you! And don’t forget to send me some pictures!
Until Next Time,
P.S. Special thanks to my girls Sandy, Kristie, and Porsha and my wife, Dee (behind the camera) for making the photoshoot for this blog post so much fun! We were laughing so hard, we almost forgot the camera was there. Take a look at a few of our bloopers!
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So you’ve come to the place in life where you feel it’s time to strike out on your own and to that I say, go for it, I’m all for independence! However, before you take that momentous leap, take some time to ask yourself these 5 crucial questions just to make sure you’ve covered all your bases:
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Have you found yourself reaching that stage of adulting where you know establishing good credit is an absolute must? Unless you plan on paying for… pretty much everything you have upfront and in cash, it’s definitely your best bet to start building credit now...before you need it. Don’t know where to start? I gotchu, girl!
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So you’ve been seeing this guy or girl for the past few months…(I’d say 3 months minimum). You don’t want to be asking these questions on the first date and having a potential partner thinking you might be a little cray. But after several dates, and the feeling that things may be really starting to heat up, you might want to begin digging a little deeper… financially! Because although this person may be super dreamy and have the ability to say and do all the right things, their answers may actually determine how much further your relationship will go…(I’m just saying). I mean, why date without a purpose, right? So today, let’s discuss some questions you need to ask your honey buns on the next date:
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Look… I’m best known for being a straight shooter. In fact, my witty honesty is one of the qualities most people like about me (well... some people don't.... I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I'm okay with that!). Anywho, it’s rare that I ever beat around the bush, because I’d rather just tell it like it is… and today will be no exception. Ladies… let’s get raw. Can you handle the truth?!
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Guess what time it is? Yep, that’s right… TAX TIME! It’s that time of the year many people look forward to because there’s a chance you could get back a nice chunk of change from the hard work you put in all year long. In fact, about 8 out of 10 people get back a tax refund every year averaging about $2,800. It’s almost like Christmas all over again! But before you get too excited and psychologically spend your tax return money before it even hits your account, let’s discuss some smart ways you can utilize this money to help propel you towards your goal of financial freedom.
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Surprise!!! Yes, I know I said “Confessions” would be a three part series, but for all my girlfriends who have fellas (husbands, boyfriends, brothers, cousins, friends, etc.) in their life… this one is for them! Today I would like to introduce to you my friend and brother, Neal!
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Welcome to Part III of the Girlfriend's, Budget series "Confessions". Today I bring to you someone that I have known and loved for a very long time. Meet my friend, Kristie - The Swiper!
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Welcome to Part II of the Girlfriend’s, Budget series “Confessions”! Today I introduce to you someone who is very near and dear to my heart. Not only is she the number one fan of Girlfriend’s, Budget and star student of FCL Financial Coaching…. She also happens to be my wife. Meet Dee - The Loaner.